[Releasing things that are blocking your path to happiness]
As individuals we must learn to hold ourselves accountable. Having an anxious spirit can be a common occurrence when in a frenzy or feeling puzzled. Your spirit can be calmed by noticing the imbalances in your body and mind and bringing them back into balance through changing your thoughts and actions.
A few simple tips I found from : http://healing.about.com/od/lettinggo/Letting_Go_Releasing_Things_That_are_Blocking_Your_Path_to_Happiness.htm
1) Being stressed or anxious can cause hyperventilation, or rapid breathing. Replace your breathing with steady and slow breaths.
2) Clear your mind from troublesome thoughts.
3) Pamper yourself (allow “Me Time”), remove yourself from maelstrom… spend some quality time alone
4) Slow down your responses “We compound our conflicts by responding without getting all the facts first.” The feeling of “the whole world is out to get you” and wanting to lash out are ones that need reconsidering.
Try to come to a resolution sooner, taking time to fully assess the situation. Get all your ducks in a row before you decide on a response.
5) Keep a distance (Boundaries), it is important to remember to step back from and create distance. Reserve your energies. Protective boundaries can help give a different perspective. Assessing the situation can help with a further understanding and to cope with future situations.
6) Let your soul be free. Often times as adults we experience situations that make us feel anxious or defeated. These thoughts thoughts can turn to memories from our childhoods when we experienced fear or loneliness. When feeling helpless you look to your guardian for protection. “Take a moment to be a caring and loving parent to your inner child.” Let her (or him) know that you will get the two of you through the rough period. Don’t feel silly. You know you want to, go ahead, just do it.
7) Hush the critical voice inside your head. We are known to be our own worst critiques. It is hard to not be down on yourself for not being able to meet your goals or falling short in some way. Remember to do the best you can, just relax. Refuse to listen to that critical voice inside your head that says you’re not good enough. Resolve to transform any nagging words into praise for those things that you have accomplished.
8) Lean on someone, it is okay to ask for help. Trying to take care of everything all alone can make anyone feel anxious, not to mention exhausted. It can be more of a struggle never asking for a hand than you may have realized. Seek out that soft shoulder to lean on and give yourself a rest.
Create a Culture of Accountability
“This is a story of four people named Everybody, Somebody, Anybody, and Nobody. There was an important job to be done and Everybody was asked to do it. Everybody was sure Somebody would do it. Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it. Somebody got angry about that because it was Everybody’s job. Everybody thought Anybody could do it, but Nobody realized that Everybody wouldn’t do it. It ended that Everybody blamed Somebody when Nobody did what Anybody could have done.”
But how to avoid this? How to create a culture of accountability and hold people accountable?
S = Set Expectations
I = Invite Commitment
M = Measure Progress
P = Provide Feedback
L = Link to Consequences
E = Evaluate Effectiveness
The more clearly the expectations and goals are set up front, the less time will be wasted later clarifying – or worse, arguing about – what was really expected. The success of any organization comes down to one thing: how well it organizes its members to focus on and work toward the same purpose.